Are you wondering what your man is thinking when he looks at another woman? Maybe it’s happened several times?
Perhaps it makes you feel jealous and insecure, and that’s why you’re looking to get to the bottom of what’s going on in his head? This is a tough situation to be in – and that’s why I wrote this guide.
Before I go deeper into the ogling behavior, I want you to imagine the following case scenario:
You’re sitting in a cafe or a restaurant with your husband and you’re having a good time. You laugh, you drink, you eat, and everything seems idyllic.
And then a woman enters the premises (or walks by your table) and the same second you notice that your man has raised his head to observe her head to toe.
You instantly start feeling overwhelmed, confused, insecure, and in a way betrayed. You start asking yourself questions like:
Does he think she’s more beautiful and attractive than me? Does he want to be with her? OMG, what if he’s already been with another woman?
Men can’t help but notice when a beautiful woman walks by. They can’t help but react in the way that they do, to be attracted to women with certain features. It’s in their nature.
It’s completely normal for men to look at other women.
It’s also completely normal for women to have that visceral, emotional reaction when they catch their partner looking.
It’s completely natural to want to know why men look, and what the look means.
Allow me to explain…
What “the look” means
– He finds her physically attractive.
– When he saw her, a chemical reaction happened in his brain. Neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin were released, giving him an involuntary surge of pleasure.
– Part of him wants her, or wonders what it would be like to be with her, in a completely harmless and innocent way.
Just like you might be ѕєχυαℓℓу attracted to some of your favorites TV stars, and wonder what that might be like… but you wouldn’t act on it.
In an alternate universe where he was single and unattached, he might be interested in her as a sexual partner.
What it doesn’t mean
– He finds her more beautiful than you.
– He isn’t attracted to you.
– He isn’t happy with you, and your relationship.
– You don’t satisfy him.
– You aren’t _______ (attractive, skinny, sᴇxʏ, loving, affectionate, etc.) enough for him.
– You should be angry at him, or jealous of her, or insecure about yourself or your body.
– He is unfaithful, or that he is going to cheat on you.
– Your relationship is doomed.
Simply put, him looking has nothing to do with you at all. The world is full of beautiful sights – flowers and sunsets, great works of art – none more beautiful than the female body. It doesn’t take anything away from you when your man admires a painting or sculpture. It doesn’t diminish his love for you when he looks at another woman.
When it’s a problem
While it is normal for men to notice other women, to look and admire, and even fantasize a bit, there is a line of respect that a mature and committed man will not cross. Looking is one thing, staring is another; and it can be hurtful, embarrassing and offensive. As I experienced before, I cannot help my momentary reaction when I see an attractive woman. But once the moment passes, I quickly turn my attention back to the love of my life, the woman to whom I am faithfully devoted.
Blatant staring, inappropriate comments, touching, flirting and (obviously) chєαtíng are all red flags. This kind of behavior indicates that a man is either not mature enough to control himself, or he doesn’t respect you (or women in general) or care enough about you to reign in his impulses. Either way, it doesn’t bode well for the future of your union…
Sources: thoughtcatalog.com, askapril.com
