Nobody wants to be labeled as the person who consistently underperforms in the bedroom. Physical intimacy is no longer viewed as taboo as it once was. In today’s more open society, people’s bedroom behavior is under much more observation—and criticism.
Fortunately, research now gives us clearer insight into what truly matters when it comes to improving intimacy. So, what should we avoid doing if we want to be better partners in bed? Here’s what the findings suggest:
1. Avoid excessive talking.
Nothing disrupts the mood more than overdoing the chatter before or during the act. Communication is important, but it should be brief and purposeful—remember, intimacy is primarily physical, not verbal.
2. Don’t engage without passion.
If you’re not genuinely invested, your lack of enthusiasm will show in your body language. Your partner will notice immediately, and that disconnect can ruin the entire experience.
3. Don’t rely on just one position or routine.
Repetition kills excitement. What worked once won’t necessarily work every time. Keep things fresh—variety is key to keeping intimacy alive.
4. Don’t be a bad kisser.
Kissing sets the tone. A kiss communicates desire and excitement without words. If your kissing falls flat, you’re starting the experience on shaky ground.
5. Show care and enthusiasm.
Intimacy isn’t about treating your partner like an object. Approach it with warmth, attentiveness, and genuine excitement—it makes all the difference.
6. Communicate wisely, but sparingly.
Yes, some verbal connection is helpful, but it should enhance—not interrupt—the flow. Keep words short and meaningful rather than carrying on conversations.
7. Be an excellent kisser.
Reinforcing the earlier point: a great kiss builds momentum and sets the stage for everything that follows.
8. Be generous in giving.
Don’t focus solely on your own satisfaction. Prioritize your partner’s pleasure as much as your own—aim to bring them along for the full experience.
