A father has revealed the reason why he banned his own 9-year-old daughter from his wedding. He said that he believed he had made the correct decision although there was a backlash from his own family.
This 46-year-old father shared his situation on the Internet to seek confirmation as to whether he had made the right call.
The man said he was going to marry his 39-year-old fiancee and had two daughters from previous relationships. The first one was 18 and the youngest was just 9. He added that the youngest girl was only 6, her mother had left.
He wrote, “My fiancee is a very sophisticated person and has exquisite tastes. She also does not really care for young children and this has created tension between her and my youngest daughter,”
“While our plans have been delayed due to global circumstances, our plans to get married are finally going ahead. It’s going to be a very lavish and expensive wedding. Due to the nature of the wedding and my fiancee’s preferences, our wedding is also going to be child-free. We will, however, be inviting my oldest as she is no longer a child and because, unlike my youngest, her and my fiancee get along well.”
After that, he detailed the heartbreaking moment when his daughter discovered that she was excluded, revealing she only found out when her stepmother took her sister out to buy a dress and she tried to tag along.
The clueless dad wrote, “I explained to her that the wedding was going to be for adults only and that she wouldn’t be attending. She started crying and getting mad which stressed out my fiancee,”
The dad said that his decision had also caused a split with his own parents. They were furious that he had prioritised his fiancee over his daughter.
He shared that “I explained to them that my daughter wouldn’t be attending the wedding because the child-free rule applied to her as well. Besides, this wedding would not be suitable for a child and I don’t want my fiancee to have to deal with my daughter on the most important day of her life,”
When his parents said that they wanted to take the child out for a special day instead of attending the nuptials, he banned them.
The man continued: “I told them they couldn’t do that, even if they didn’t attend the wedding I wouldn’t let them take my daughter. This has become a bigger conflict than I intended.
“My fiancee and I both think we’re in the right for wanting a child-free wedding, but it appears I may lose my parents from the wedding over this and I want to know if I’m in the right or not.”
After the man posted online to seek advice, he received critical comments from netizens.
One outraged user wrote: “Not only an awful father, but a colossal a**hole. That poor little girl,”
Another said: “Why the hell are you marrying someone who doesn’t like your child?” asked another incredulous commenter.”
“His parents wanted to take her out but he won’t allow it. So is she meant to stay at home and sweep the floor while waiting for her cruel stepmother to return?”
“It was absolutely wrong of you to marry this woman and combine families with her when she resents your innocent child for existing.”
“It was wrong of you to date this woman given how she feels about and treats your child, who any halfway decent parent would know should be put first.
“You should be ashamed. You are the worst kind of man and father.”
Source: https://www.nzherald.co.nz/
